Lunch and Learn with Lindsay – Issue 60: Change your story

I get it!!

Being an EA is hard.

Sometimes the only recognition you get is when stuff goes wrong (and that’s the stuff that ????magically???? has worked perfectly for AGES until this blip!).

I know it can be really easy to wallow in ‘woe is me’ drama ???? fit for a Shakespearean drama….

But that’s not helpful.

It’s SO important to identify the changes that you need to make for a better tomorrow, a better appreciation of your role and the contributions you make to the success of your Executive, your team – actually, make that, your organisation. 

So how do you do this❓

Over the next 4 ????Lunch N Learn With Lindsay???? issues I will be sharing advice and practical solutions to help you step away from your “woe is me” cry and step into your EA and PA role with pride.

Let’s make a start with some sound advice gleened from Tony Schwartz and Catherine McCarthy who issued an article in Harvard Business Review –  “Manage your energy, not your time”. You can read this article here.  

Inspired by this article I share a training session on this topic (and back in July last year I issued a #LunchNLearnWithLindsay which you can read here)

When faced with challenging situations, it is important to “Change your Story” and to step away from being a victim or attributing blame. 

Consider the situation with different lenses, namely: 

Using the reverse lens – ask  “What would the other person in this situation say and in what ways might that be true?”

Using the long lens  – ask “How will I most likely view this situation in six months?”

Using the wide lens – ask “Regardless of the outcome of this issue, how can I grow and learn from it?”

Each of these lenses will help you cultimate more positive emotions and will ensure you step away from your “woe is me” cry. 

Give it a go next time you are challenged.  And remember our favourite quote here at Your Excellency…


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