Lunch and Learn with Lindsay – Issue 4: “Tell me what you want, what you really, really want”


Today’s food for thought and inspiration comes from C S Lewis’s Alice in Wonderland, The Spice Girls and A A Milne’s Winnie the Pooh – diverse hey?

There are so many insightful and thought-provoking quotes I can take from the literary treasure that is Alice in Wonderland and this is one of my favourites.

In any and every situation it’s important to have clarity over where you are going and what you want to achieve. To successfully do this you need to tap into “outcome thinking” and ensure you are using motivational “towards” language.

In this post I’m going to help you do that.

“Tell me what you want, what you really, really want”

Let’s understand a bit more about how our minds work.  If I say to you now– “DON’T think about what you did over the weekend!” what happens? You start thinking about it right? Now this doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re all rebels – what it demonstrates is how your mind works.

Your mind has to have a reference point to work with – you have to imagine something and create a representation of it – be that an image, a sound or a feeling or a combo of all three.  So, even though I said “DON’T” think about it you still did.

Knowing that this is how your mind works will help you realise the power of imagining what you “DO WANT” then. Because, if you can create an image, a sound and a feeling for what you do want (what you really, really want a la Spice Girls!) this can be a powerful motivator for heading towards that very thing and achieving it.

Setting and achieving goals successfully lies in being able to use “outcome thinking”.  And our starting point is in using “Towards Language” so we identify what we “DO WANT”.  This will motivate us and help us move towards our goal.

There are two extremes of thinking – Away From Thinking and Towards Thinking. The image below identifies the difference and introduces an analogy with characters from A A Milne’s Winnie The Pooh.   

Be more Tigger-like in your identification of what you do want and what you will do and you’re well on your way to successful outcome thinking and achievement of your goals.

With regards


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